So the last two days have been pretty eventful…some good some not as good.  Yesterday was a rough day…the kind of day that makes or breaks a relationship day.  We talked.  Mostly about how our lives have gotten into a routine and we know what to expect everyday about how there is no spontaneity anymore.  July 23 will be our 9 year anniversary – keeping the spark alive is something every couple struggles with – either they decide to part ways because it’s too much work or they stick it out and remember why they fell in love to begin with.  Phrases like “want to date other people” and “kids with someone else” and “do you want out” were thrown around.  They are questions that we really talked about – we weren’t angry but there were tears.  It’s hard to talk about this kind of stuff which is why most of the time it goes unsaid.  We spent last night and the day today getting back to the basics and spending some quality time together without distractions – it was wonderful.  Working, driving, living and being together can get really…really…really stressful.  We have decided also to not spend all our time together on the weekends or at lunch during the week so that we allow us to miss us.  I am sure that this will go a long way in rekindling the flame and let us be individuals together again.